Ten Rules for Being Human

by Dr. Chérie Carter-Scott, MCC

Learn the rules of life to conquer any challenge, manage unpredictable ups and downs, and become a satisfied and well-adjusted person.

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If Life is a Game, These are the RULES
#1 New York Times and Amazon bestseller

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Dr. Cherie

Ten Rules for Being Human

In If Life Is A Game, These Are The Rules, Dr. Chérie explains there are no mistakes in life, only lessons that are repeated until learned. Best of all, Dr. Chérie shows that wisdom lies inside each one of us and that putting the Ten Rules for being Human into action, we can create a more fulfilling life.

The Author

Chérie Carter-Scott, Ph.D.

“The Mother of Coaching” since 1974

Dr. Carter-Scott is a behavioral scientist, transformational executive ICF Master Certified Coach and known for starting the coaching movement in 1974. She has over 10,000 coaching hours, and is known globally as The Mother of Coaching! Chérie Carter-Scott, Ph.D. is the CEO of MMS Worldwide Institute, LLC., a boutique firm which specializes in custom-designed personal development and professional training programs conducted by her team of highly skilled coaches. She has worked with her clients in the areas of coaching, mentoring, and coaching supervision, and she is currently being trained by the ICF headquarters to be one of their 100 pre-eminent assessors worldwide. ​Her online training program, MMSVT.com offers intense content of 130 modules, presenting 20 online courses available 24/7. ​Dr. Chérie has been coaching change successfully for more than 40 years, individually, in teams, and in Mergers and Acquisitions. The Original coach & coach trainer since 1974!

Dr. Chérie is a NY Times and Amazon #1 Bestselling author , Frequent guest on Oprah, Author of 20 book titles, Ph.D. In Organizational Development (Fielding Graduate University), global CEO since 1974, executive producer & featured on-camera coach in LEAP coaching documentary 2018. She is the writer, composer & lyricist of The Workshop, A Dress Rehearsal for Life! Musical; Originator and Mother of the Coaching industry, Licensor of Intellectual Property globally, who coaches, consults, and trains executive coaches globally online including her Fortune 500 clients. She is an instrument-rated private pilot license and PADI Open-Water Diver. She is a wife, mother, business partner, and grandmother who lives in Thailand.

If Life is a Game, These are the RULES

As Introduced In

Chicken Soup for the Soul

For one of her coach trainings in 1974, Chérie Carter-Scott, a corporate trainer and consultant, composed a list of basic truths about life, which she named “The Ten Rules for Being Human.” Right away, the Rules resonated with her clients, who photocopied and passed the list to friends and relatives. Within months, Chérie’s Rules were in thousands of homes all over the country, and eventually, they were published in Chicken Soup for the Soul and have also appeared in Ann Landers’ column. Although there’s no formula to help you win the game of life, Chérie’s Rules convey a universal wisdom that, once understood and embraced, can contribute to meaningful relationships with ourselves and others, at work and in the home.

In If Life Is a Game, These Are the Rules, Chérie shares that there are no mistakes in life, only lessons that are repeated. In thoughtful, inspirational essays illustrated with encouraging personal anecdotes, she includes the lessons that can be learned from each of the Rules and offers insights on self-esteem, respect, acceptance, forgiveness, ethics, compassion, humility, gratitude, and courage. Best of all, Chérie shows that wisdom lies inside each one of us and that by putting the Ten Rules for Being Human into action we can create a more fulfilling life.

If Life Is A Game, These Are The Rules Card Deck

Based on the book of the same name, this deck of 100 cards will serve as inspirational stepping-stones on your road to emotional, physical, and spiritual growth. Post these beautifully illustrated cards in your home, your office, in your car – anywhere where you could use a reminder that your level of success and personal wellbeing is up to you!
If Life Is A Game, These Are The Rules Card Deck

The Oprah Winfrey Show

Rules for Being Human

From September 15, 1998: Life coach and author Dr. Chérie Carter-Scott discusses her #1 New York Times best-seller, If Life Is a Game, These are the Rules. She coaches the audience through what she calls the 10 rules for being human. Dr. Carter-Scott details the importance of the lessons life presents to us, and explains why life will continue to repeat those teachings until they’re learned. Dr. Carter-Scott also talks about why she believes we are in control of our life’s outcome.

Book Reviews

Jack Canfield

Chicken Soup for the Soul

How wonderful it would be if we were all given Chérie Carter-Scott’s ten rules the day we were born. Chérie has been teaching these rules for over twenty years. In her seminars, these rules have resonated with thousands of people. If Life Is a Game, These Are the Rules are universal truths that all of us can learn to live happier lives that are full of self-acceptance, understanding, love, success, and the inner knowing that we’re all in this game together, on the same team. The door to a satisfying life lies within each of us, and Chérie’s eternal inspiring message provides the key.

Natalie Ottosen

Goodreads Review


I read this book years ago, and there was something so familiar to me. It was a game changer for me… I have a few of them. It’s a quick read, and one I always have extra copies of, to give away. I do my best to remember and live by the principles, daily.


Goodreads Review


I read this little book during a very confusing time. It helped to calm my “now” and helped me imagine a “new”. I absolutely believe that making a list of my own needs – the needs God created in me – and list the characteristics of the people i needed around me allowed me to focus and create clarity. Without that I would have stayed in the pit of confused co-dependence. It’s a vicious destructive place. She refers to the universe but for me that’s easy to translate to God. Why ask the waiter how to cook when you have direct access to the master chef? This is a good book for creating simplicity when life gets complicated.

Spring Tiger

Amazon Review


I am sure we have all experienced situations that keep repeating itself, not necessarily the same way as before but still repeats itself. This book explains how there are lessons to be learned with things that happen in our lives and until we learn the lesson it will be presented to us again at a later date. This is a short and simple to read book that will help one understand their life and how we can learn from it and improve it. Best to read the book more than once for re-enforcement. Fabulous book!


Goodreads Review


I really liked this book and the lessons it has to teach. It had a lot of similar concepts that pull from spirituality and religions like Buddhism that I could relate to and it was described in ways that was easy to grasp and understand.

Nozer Kanga

Living with Consciousness


I was impressed by this book. Quite wonderful, easy to read with examples and I have read this book over and over again innumerable times.

Mark Victor Hansen

Chicken Soup for the Soul

If Life Is a Game, These Are the Rules will free you to wake up to your no-limit life.

Joan Price

The Ultimate Guide to Sex After 50

If you loved “The Rules for Being Human” attributed to “Anonymous” in the bestseller Chicken Soup for the Soul, you’re in luck. The author–corporate trainer Chérie Carter-Scott, Ph.D.–has stepped forward and written a follow-up book: If Life Is a Game, These Are the Rules. This book, “a basic spiritual primer for what it means to be a human,” discusses each of the 10 rules (e.g., “There are no mistakes, only lessons,” and “Lessons are repeated until learned,”) and discusses them with kindness, eloquence, and wisdom. For example, rule 1 is, “You will receive a body. You may love it or hate it, but it will be yours for the duration of your life on Earth.” Carter-Scott discusses the challenge of making peace with the body we’ve been given, and the lessons of acceptance (appreciating it as it is), self-esteem (viewing yourself as worthy, despite how your body looks or performs), respect (treating it like a “valuable and irreplaceable object”), and pleasure (indulging in the five senses to “unlock the joy stored within you”). Similarly, each of the rules has four “lessons.” You’ll read this inspirational book more than once, and mark quotes to tell friends.

Samar McCann

Amazon Review


Excellent book, especially if you are figuring things out (i.e. Your 20’s) or if you are transitioning to the next decade of life and need to prioritize (again). I have purchased this for several people and loan out my copy several times. Definitely an easy read and full of great insight and advice to help you focus in what is truly important in life.

Esther Dan

Amazon Review


I have thoroughly enjoyed this book over the past months. Reading this book is like having coffee with a big sis, sharing with you principles of a life well lived.

Isabel M. Falcon

Amazon Review


If you are not sure why life seems to be dealing you a bad hand, this is a book, which might help you a lot. I found this book after I had read my fair share of self-help books, and after years of trying to apply every principle that made me successful at work to my private life… without result. The spiritual truths are presented in a very simple way, which will be acceptable even to those who are not that open to spirituality. The book was an eye opener and taught me to look for the potential lesson in every situation I face. Three years after reading it, I have given it as gift to at least a dozen people, and all claim to have benefited from it. Buy it, read it, apply it, you will enjoy the result.

Sami Al-Khalili

Goodreads Review


A little book that grows on you.

Marianne Williamson

The Healing of America and A Return to Love

The Ten Rules for Being Human are entertaining and fun–but more than that, they’re TRUE.

Richard Carlson, Ph.D.

Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff

If Life Is a Game, These Are the Rules is a template for living. Everyone needs to read these words of wisdom. It’s ‘simple’ yet important stuff.

C.G. Fewston

American Novelist


If Life is a Game, These are the Rules (1998) by Chérie Carter-Scott was first introduced as “Ten Rules for Being Human” in Chicken Soup for the Soul and has since spread its wisdom across the globe. The sage-like advice at times is simple and filled with common sense while at other times it penetrates deep into the soul of the human being capable of mindless mistakes or proactive change.


Goodreads Review


Lovely reminders about the lessons in life which make life worth living. I am on board with this book and its teachings /reminders. I choose to live my life with similar guidelines as this book shares.

Steven J

Amazon Review


I found out that the author created the ‘Rules of Life’ list I’d seen on line, and immediately ordered this book. I’m savoring it page by page almost. There’s so many good things to ponder. I’m choosing to sip slowly from this font of refreshing wisdom. I’m grateful for her contributions to us all.

Sharon Henry

Amazon Review


This little book covers a lot and makes you think. It’s at the top of my gift giving list, as it doesn’t take itself too seriously but genuinely tries to help us make sense of this crazy journey we all share.

Dora Mae Estey

Amazon Review


This book is a remarkable manual for anyone who would prefer to navigate life without having to go through ALL the rigors of “learning the hard way.” A reader might tend to charge through the book, but to capture the essence of the valuable rules, take it in a chapter at a time, let that rule sink in, and then move on deliberately learning how to make your life better. When Maya Angelou said, “When people know better, they do better,” she might have had a book like this in mind.

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